March 20, 2009

no turning back

hello pretty people,

Today its yaya-being-chatty-crappy day ;) So here goes (pardon the bad sequences of the writings since i am crappy).

Have you ever wish you could turn back time and fix something right? Have you? How many things/incidents would you like to fix? If you can fix it, would it make a difference in your life now? Would it make a big impact and impression? Does the fixing thing involves only you or does it involves other(s)?

Everyone has made poor choices or done something in their past that could possibly be labeled as "regrettable." But, think about it. The fact that you are now able to look back and realize that a mistake or mis-step occurred means you have learned a valuable lesson. Some of my choices may have landed me in unpleasant circumstances, but experiencing these things certainly built my current character. I wouldn't be where I am today if it weren't for those character-building situations. Mistakes are stepping stones to an evolving life. No need for you to sink into regret or despair -- keep your chin up.

When i evaluate my life now, i would concur that i am what i wanted to be. YES! I have always wanted to be a doctor, it wouldnt matter what sort of doctor, be it foot doctor or neck doctor. Today, i can consider myself successful as a dental surgeon (cukup2 makan la), happy, healthy, strong and confident. And there is nothing i would change! Nope, there is nothing i would change ;) for what i've gone through, what i've decided on made the person that i am now!

I have had many ups and downs, been here and there; and all of these roller coaster mazes made me realise that if i werent to do that, i wouldnt be this or if i werent to accept those, i wouldnt have these! Just like that Sinatra song "mistakes, ive had a few, but then again, too few to mention".

Take my failed marriage for instance, if i were not to be married with my X, i would never have been blessed with a wonderful son, Khalish who is by far the closest person to my heart. I believe that if you could accept and forgive, you will become a happy and satisfied person :) Life's better when you are satisfied!

Forgive and move on, even if it is the hardest and most impossible thing to do - make ammend! Some backstabber did some backstabbing and it broke my heart into pieces. I was at my most bottom, devastated but i learned that if you keep your anger and hatred inside you, you wont be free, you wont be able to wake up and walk your normal pace. So, i gathered every strength and focus in me, and i said to myself "i forgive you! i forgive you, you weird and psycho person! Nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes." LOL Like magic, i felt better!! It was an experience for me - well, experience is something you dont get until just after you need it! - now i am experienced! ..keh keh..

Sometimes feelings of regret arise not from our past actions, but from our non-actions. Have you ever regretted not taking a vacation, staying stuck in a dead-end job, not attending college, not accepting a marriage proposal by who could've been you true match... or whatever? It may be too late to reverse those decisions, but you still have options. New opportunities are around you, at every corner, you just have to open your eyes and look for 'em.

We have to accept that our past mistakes are just that --- in the past? We oughta focus on today. Become aware of our future goals and desires. Setting clear intentions will help clear the path so that our life progresses with a freer heart and increased happiness :) The best is yet to come! Say it wiith me "the best is yet to come!" Believe it, you gotta believe it, if not whats the point then huh?! Remember, no one is perfect, including you, yes sir! Live today, yesterday dah lepas la beb!! ..keh keh.. When you can accept that, you are a new you everyday! You are happy everyday and you will have zero regret!

Hey do you know that you never really learn to swear until you learn to drive??!! true huh?! i think so!! ..ngeh ngeh..

9 comments:

ellain said...

yes...
life must go on...

kk yaya...
ella link kk yaya...

*huhuh... long time not see hikmah...
she's my bestfrend when i am in primary skool... (skpct)

neeza said...

Hi Dr Yaya =) Saya baru jer duk follow blog Dr secara 'sembunyi2' sejak bulan lepas (err..dakper kang?) Saja nok kabor..entry hak ni BESTTTTT SANGATTTT!! TQ Dr Yaya =)

a.k.a lollipop said...

i believe that when we sincerely forgive and forget life will be much better and smoother...insyaallah but it's easy to forgive then to forget..
hahaha..sayalah itew =)

so i just get my gear on day to day basis on life is good and good things happen to me...

you should read 'The Secret'..best!!

bUL4N said...

k long shud become a writer aa....

yaya othman said...

thanks all for dropping by :)

hi ella! i will tell hikmah that u dropped by!

hi neeza, Tq! glad that u like it!

the secret? hmm..i'll read it insyaAllah! thanx!

angoh,oloh la, u are even better!

Lindah: Kamal: Nuha said...

jadikan pengalaman hidup Yaya sebagai landasan untuk membina hari-hari yang lebih bahagia..mungkin Allah lebih tahu apa yang berlaku di sebalik apa yang telah terjadi..apapun be positive ya..

regards

deloress said...

owh backstabber.. tell me about it..

it really hurts when it comes from the person u trusted the most.. and someone is close to u .. when we thot we have forgiven them... then your mind jog back to the memory lane.. it kinda brings back bad vibe... but true.. life goes on.. sometimes it's hard to forgive & forget.. but Yes.. we have to focus on ourselves & the future !! all the best to u yaya.... and to all of us !

Mrs LVoe said...

Many times the person who hurt u has no intention of apologizing. Don't forget to forgive urself dear.

Sometimes its not worth it to ask for forgiveness to people without brain :-)

take care dear. life must goes on :-)

yaya othman said...

deloress & sha : Yes betul! Life goes on! If you argue with a moron, u'll be just as equal , hihi